Baby Sign Vocabulary ~ Courtney

At 17 months, I decided to record all of the words that my baby could say.  There were 59 of them.  At the same time, his signing vocabulary was 128 words strong!  While both his signs and spoken words continue to increase, this week marked the first that he spoke more new words than learned new signs.  He is just over 18 months old.

So for an entire year (from 6 months old), signing has been my baby’s primary way to communicate with us.  Just think of how much more he’s been able to tell us and ask us before he could verbally articulate his interests and desires.  I am equally excited when he does a new sign as when he speaks a new word because either way, it’s making life a whole lot easier and more interesting for him and my husband and me.

Whether he will drop signs or continue to use them as he learns to say the words remains to be seen.  My guess is that he might do a little of both, at least until his articulation improves.  I plan to continue signing and saying the words, modeling both to him as I have been.

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Setting Your Baby’s Sleep Schedule ~ Chris

Let me warn you before reading on that I’m not a sleep expert and while you might want to experiment a little bit with some of the things that worked for me don’t take it as gospel.  If there’s anything I’ve learned is that every baby is different so something that works here, might not work there!

There’s not much that is will be so varied, besides your baby’s eating habits, as your developing baby’s sleep habits.  Your baby will go from being totally random, sleeping whenever he feels like it to sleeping throughout the day and being up at night, to finally having some normalcy, but never quite getting on an adult schedule.  At some point, your baby is going to join you on some sort of regular sleep routine, but not before you’re completely exhausted.  Count yourself lucky if your baby went straight to sleeping through the night – you’ve been blessed.  When it came to our son’s sleep routine, we had mixed results.

It all began when we decided to give the soother a try after Holden had become accustomed to falling asleep on the breast – something we knew wouldn’t help but was hard to prevent.  The soother worked to help calm and put him to bed, but at one point it became more of a nuisance.  We found that it would pop out in the middle of the night and since our son’s fine motor skills weren’t developed enough, he wasn’t able to help put it back in on his own.  The inevitable result was crying so we would come and help making for a very sporadic schedule for us.  At one point, we collectively had enough so we gave the soother cold turkey up on his morning nap.  It took almost 2 hours of crying in fits and starts before he calmed enough to fall asleep.  That was the end of the soother – he would never need it again.

You’ll find that your baby might go from 6 hours at night to well over 12 hours at night.  Every baby is going to be different.  Your task is to try to settle on something that you can live with.  Our son went from two naps, one in the morning and one in the afternoon, to just one afternoon nap.  He also had a much longer nighttime sleep as he aged too.  We found that making his room really dark helped him sleep throughout the night and also stay sleeping longer in the morning.  The light cycle also plays a factor.  For example, you might find that your baby sleeps in later in the winter when the days are shorter and earlier in the summer when the sun rises much earlier.  We found that with only a bit of variation that the cycle would remain fairly predictable by just an 1 or so either way.  I think it’s a bit much to make the room completely pitch black (it’s disorienting to a baby to wake up in the dark) so the early summer sun does tend to wake him up earlier.

My advice on setting sleep routines is to be flexible and find something that works for you and your baby.  If you aren’t happy with how early your baby wakes, try putting him to bed later – say around 8:30-9:00 p.m.  Then you can more or less predict that he’ll wake up 10-12 hours later or thereabouts.  Don’t do it all in one shot.  If your baby goes to sleep at 6 p.m. now, stretching their day out will make your baby overtired and they’ll actually sleep less.  Second, remove any nightlights or other artificial lights and make the room as dark as possible but still let some daylight penetrate.  Ideally, you’ll only want to be able to see your moving hand at arms length, when it’s light outside, but not otherwise.  Next set a solid bed-time routine and carry it out to the letter.  We started from play, bath, dress/diaper, yogurt, brush teeth, play on mom and dad’s bed and watch a bit of cartoons, go to baby room and read several books, night time in crib.  Doing this is important to make life predictable to a baby who can otherwise feel that things are out of their control.

I don’t pretend to be any sort of sleep expert, but hopefully some of these tips can help you get your baby back on track.

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Learning, Memory, Sleep And Baby Sign ~ Chris

I’ve been fascinated with human psychology and behaviour my entire life.  In fact, I originally went to University to study psychology but later found that my science courses lead me into discovering far more answers than did my psychology courses.  Thus, I swapped from a psychology major to a psychology minor and upped my science to a major.  While I learned a lot of the basics in University, it was real life that really reinforced my understanding of people.

I like to look at things a little bit different from the rest, and I think this helps me.  I’m not married to any particular train of thought, that it until I find something that works for me.  By work, I mean something that yields the results that I wish for.  I hear so many people complain daily about their struggles, yet do very little, nothing at all, or actually do things to make them worse off.  This puzzles me to no end.  If you ask me, it’s better to come to a situation with a clean slate and work toward a solution that actually works.  Naturally, you can’t just do whatever you want in life…well you can, just you can’t rightfully expect the results you want by doing so.  That is, for every action, there is an equal and logical reaction.  What you do directly impacts upon what results you get.

While certain results might make you feel like the world is against you (and often it’s not exactly cooperating), the blame can often be attributed back to you.  I have found that many people let pride and ego dictate their actions rather than mastering their actions within the realm of nature.  Nature is a driving force in all of our lives and sets the rules by which we must abide by.  If you choose to work against these laws then you’re in for a difficult (and unnecessary) struggle.  While you may assume I’m overthinking things, and maybe I am for our purpose, I still enjoy results that don’t cause me to suffer undue stress and of which produce the results I can enjoy.  Like Dr. Phil mentions over and over again on his show “How’s that working for you?”

So I’m off on a tangent right now, but my initial purpose for this post was to describe the research I heard some time ago about how the mind works to produce memories.  Scientists think that sleep is a time when our brains work and re-work our day’s tasks into long-term storage.  Therefore our “down-time” is a time where our memories are consolidated.  This makes sense to me.  Think about the last time you work hard on learning something new.  You likely spent a good time in the early parts of sleep rehearsing over and over again the task – almost as if you were doing it right then and there.  Imagine playing Tetris or learning to drive by example.  This is your brain’s way of hardening the neural pathways in your mind.  It’s setting the connections and reinforcing them.  When downhill skiers visually practice their run at the start of the gate, they’re doing the same thing.  Sports experts know this well, and use visualization often to help an athlete improve their performance.

As this applies to baby sign language and learning in general, you should take away that babies who learn skills over the course of several days will master something faster than if they were exposed to it only once.  This is because their minds will have had more exposures over many days and had many chances to “sleep on it.”  The more “sleeps” a baby has on a task, the more consolidated is their specific memory.  This is why baby signing takes many exposures over many days to work.  Adults are no different.  In fact, it’s the things we do daily that become part of our core memories because we sleep on them so many times.  When your kids are eventually faced with tests (or you are) be sure to learn and re-learn the material over several days rather than a quick cram so that your brain has a chance to solidly wire itself producing a mastery of the material.  Cramming has been shown to help in the short term, but in the long term, the memories will simply fad away.  The things we do all day long eventually become permanent in our minds and so long as we keep doing them, will harden to the point where we find them easy to do requiring no active thought whatsoever.  Any new driver will attest to this, their minds are actively thinking about driving, while an experienced driver often relies exclusively on their consolidated memories to bring them to their destination – nary an active thought.

Therefore, to teach baby’s to sign, teach your baby frequently, and teach your baby daily.  The more times you expose your baby to signs, the more times your baby will sleep on the task and the more it will become reinforced.

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Why Delay Socialization – Using Baby Signs To Advance Your Baby ~ Chris

Few realize just how useful signs can be in creating well mannered little boys and girls.  I can promise you that your baby understands far more than you think. For this reason you should use baby signs.  For example, a baby as young as 16 months old can use manners like PLEASE and THANK YOU.  I know this because my son did after very little prompting.  He understood that when he wanted something he needed to rub his chest in a circular manner and after he received what he wanted to bring his hand from his mouth downward to show his appreciation.

If you don’t use signs, you’ll suffer from long months when it was okay for your baby to beg and crawl at your legs when they wanted a special treat, then bolt away with the spoils not having shown their appreciation only to come back begging for more when it had been engulfed.  Baby signs lets you set limits on activities too.  For example, you can sign when something is almost done by saying ALL DONE, you can sign STOP when it’s time to move on.  You can have your baby wave BYE when he should get ready to part with something.  Babies can also let parents know when they’ve reached their limits and need to SLEEP, want their BLANKET or a HUG.

I remember being totally floored when one of my sister’s friends was over with her little girl.  She didn’t know how to sign, but was very verbal for her age.  She was visibly upset and wanted to leave, when her Mom asked why, her baby told her that she was tired and wanted to go to sleep.  I was amazed!  My son, at the same age, was not a verbal, but he could make all his thoughts known through signs.  Had we not signed with him, it would have been 24 months before he could carry on some sort of conversation.  Compare this to the over 200 words he learned to sign!

Many parents initially think the pre-signing is such a short time-frame that they’ll just skip over it and wait for their baby to start talking.  This can be a mistake because you’ll have missed out on a gap where socialization can take place.  You can teach your baby all sorts of skills, manners just being one of them.  With signs you can teach GENTLE and TOUCH GENTLE, NO TOUCH, STOP, WAIT and so forth.  There’s really nothing off limits to teaching your baby and should your baby’s interests lie elsewhere you can take off on any tangent you want.

The pre-verbal period is an important time in your baby’s life and much learning can take place.  Just imagine that we taught my son to count to 10, as well as the alphabet all before he turned two-years-old.  I very much doubt he’s superhuman or a genius, he’s just had the learning opportunities of two loving parents keen on teaching him skills he’ll need to carry on productively in life.  Incorporate signs into your parenting and I’m certain that you’ll be thankful.

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Welcoming Your Toddler Into Your World ~ Chris

It seems that most parents aren’t willing to welcome wholeheartedly their babies into their lives.  They indicate this by locking off rooms, cupboards, moving fragile objects out of reach and so forth.

While I agree that, for safety’s sake, we should put up baby gates, fix plugs to electrical outlets and remove sharp and other dangerous items from baby’s reach, this is a given, we shouldn’t have to upset our lifestyle just because we have a toddler bopping around.  We do need to set limits though and teach baby about how to carry on responsibly in their environment.  Part of this involves giving up some of our space so that baby can do some of the activities they prefer.

For example, when my son began to show an interest in trucks, books and other toys, we cleared out our coffee table to make room for him where we could enjoy him most.  While we previously enjoyed watching television in the family room, we instead moved it to the bedroom and only watched it when he was napping or in bed for the night.  The living room also lost a shelf to make room for a large box turned into a fort.  Our books were removed to make room for his.  After some trial and error I discovered that Holden appreciated the use of one of my desk drawers so I removed everything from the top drawer and put it into the bottom drawer.  After some practice, I was able to teach him the difference between the drawers such that I wouldn’t have to worry about him getting into my important papers.

Next we tackled the cupboards.  Thankfully he didn’t have a big interest in tearing the pantry apart and we gave him a lot of leeway with the other cabinets.  They just held dishes after all, and I vividly remember playing with the pots and pan when I was young.  What’s the harm?  After a while, he began to tire of these anyway, only to revisit on occasion.  This is probably one of the key elements that your baby is going to tire of things anyway if you can be patient enough to allow them to freely explore.

Many baby experts will tell you that it’s possible to teach babies what they can touch and what they can’t.  I believe this to be true.  With a stern look and proper reinforcement, you can keep your delicates in plain sight without worry.  Teaching boundaries isn’t going to happen instantly, it’s going to take a while before your baby figures out how things work.  Regardless it’s important to be consistent and firm with whatever you choose.  If you are flexible, your baby will take this to mean that things are negotiable – this is fine if they are, but if they’re not, don’t go in that direction.  Over time I have noticed that I’m less stringent on my decisions and allow for certain negotiation.  This is the case in snacking where I might bend a little bit if my son is on a spurt where he’s eating well at mealtimes.  Naturally, every baby is different so it’s going to take some practice on your part to mesh your personality and your baby’s into something that works for your household.

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