Seeing Patterns ~ Chris

If you’ve got a signing baby, you know exactly what I mean when I say that an entire new world is reopened.  Once your baby is signing, they’ll see much more than you will.  They’ll begin to point out BIRDS when you hadn’t seen them before.  They might even sign when they hear a bird, when you might not – leaving you wondering what’s up.  They might even, as my son does, sign BIRD when they see a prominent logo on a shirt leaving you to wonder if they haven’t gotten things mixed up.  Thankfully we never assume our signing babies have gone made with all these things we miss because after a while, we wake up to the fact that for a while, we’ve had a much narrower perspective on the world.

Our babies literally start refreshing our world for us.  After a while of “looking like fools” we start giving our babies the benefit of the doubt and instead of questioning their signs or second guessing them, we get down on their level, watch carefully as they do and open our ears for any hint of the motive for their signs.  Now imagine a preverbal baby without signs, what do they do?  They can’t express their interests, they can’t label the things around them and can’t draw attention to the things around them.  Are they suffering from this?  Not in any extreme sense, however they certainly aren’t receiving the same benefit that the signing baby is.

So if you’re new to signing keep in mind that your baby is going to become a labeling fiend.  They’re going to find birds and butterflies and whatever other words you arm them with everywhere!  So the next time baby fires up a sign don’t immediately discount them, wake your eyes and ears up, look around from their level.  If you can’t find what they’re signing, have them point to it, or have them bring you over.  In other words, ask them for help.  Check on cereal boxes, books laying on the floor, patterns on clothing, wallpaper and on and on.  I remember my son doing the sign for PEAS and wondering what was up.  It’s not exactly his favourite snack, especially peas in a pod uncooked (he loves single peas though).  By getting on his level, I found he was signing his interest in Courtney’s peas that were only slightly visible through the top of her lunch bag!  It’s truly amazing how the mind of a child works and what sorts of patterns they see in their world.  Signing with your baby is like revisiting the world – seeing everything through fresh eyes.

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An Odd Benefit To Singing – Saying “No” Specifically ~ Chris

It might seem odd that one of the benefits I have seen to signing is the ability to say “no” to some of the requests my son makes as he signs.  You are probably wondering how that’s a benefit at all.

How I see it, my job as a Dad is to prepare my son to be independent and function productively in the real world.  I also know of not a single soul who lacks daily limits with respect to their wants.  Needs and wants are two entirely different things.  Needs are never denied and these include food, water, shelter, heat, affection, intellectual stimulation, and so forth.  Wants are all the extra things, these are optional things, like extra food such as sweets, being picked up, taken to see the stray dog, and so forth.

Wants are those things that adults habitually must make sacrifices to attain.  We aren’t simply given these things because we ask (or demand) them.  Perhaps me setting limits creates a divide with parents who are more lax, but I think doing so is important to creating a well-balanced child.  My decisions are never random or spiteful.  On the contrary, I do things which I deem acceptable given my limits, time, energy and desire.  If I’m busy making dinner and can’t take a moment to pick my son up, less dinner get burned, I don’t – even if he demands it, even if he asks nicely.  I make my reasons clear.  If I plan to pick him up in a few seconds, I’ll just sign WAIT to him and then do so – I honour my word.  I don’t hope he’ll forget his request or move on, or come to me again and ask, I’ll go to him and ask him if he still wants to be picked up.  I want my son to have integrity.  My denials always carry with them a rational explanation.

Signing allows baby to make very specific requests and allows parents to make very specific acceptance of them or denials as the situation warrants.  By the time our little boy was 15-16 months old, we had a pretty clear understanding of each others limits.  He knew that not all requests would be accepted and put up very little fuss when I denied them.  At the same time, I always made an effort to provide him with his wants, and never left him wanting for his needs.

Only time will tell if this is trumps giving in to every demand a toddler makes, but from the feedback we get from friends and relatives, we’re raising a pretty decent and loving son who’s a joy to be around.

I want a Lamborghini and a million dollars, but no amount of kicking and screaming at the car dealership or at the bank will make anyone cave to my wants.

In my opinion, the sooner children join the real world, the better.

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Failure To Sign Baby’s Interests ~ Chris

Many parents wonder why their baby is taking so long to start signing back.  This usually is a huge cause for unnecessary concern.  Always remember that your baby is going to sign back just as soon as he’s ready and not one moment sooner.  Having said this, we cover in great detail in our fast track to signing program ways to expedite signing back.

I will offer you an important tip though.  When you sign, be sure to choose words that mean something to your baby.  You will come to be surprised by what specific things make your baby tick.  One baby might be fairly normal and appreciate their bottle of MILK, or a COOKIE, while another baby might be totally floored by a ceiling FAN, or maybe the pet CAT.  For this reason, I would recommend that you don’t limit the signs you teach to some set list.

Baby’s are individuals, and they will prefer to communicate about things that they find amusing.  It’s true though, that most baby’s do having similar interests though.  For example, food and drink are a big player in a newborns life, so all parents should introduce these signs first.  However, as your baby ages, he’ll show interest in things outside of raw necessities.  If your baby isn’t signing yet and you’ve been at it for at least two months, I would recommend that you drop some of the signs you’re already doing and replace them with some new signs for the things your baby tends to be attracted to.  If your baby is crawling, label the things he plays with or seems to reach for or stare intently at.  As mentioned before, babies have some odd interests at times….and some standard ones.  However, what is key, is that you offer words to your baby which he will be motivated enough to sign back.

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Photos As Memory Aids ~ Chris

We live in a different world than our parents grew up in with loads of good and probably an equal amount of bad.  While our parents tended to live in the moment and take it all in, we can and sometimes do live in the past or future.  This is because we are so connected to the world and worlds around us.  We can go almost anywhere we want with a click of the mouse and while this might be good, it can also drag us away from experiencing these things ourselves first hand.

However, when we do make the time to get out of our small world, we can use photographs and videos to freeze memories.  These tools are a great way to remind a baby the sights and signs they learned.  The more times a baby sees and rehearses the various things in life, the more they are committed to memory. In fact, sleep is said to be time when memories are consolidated from short term memory into long term memory.  This is why when we do a novel task that is mentally taxing, our brain continues into overdrive while we sleep.  Going over and over again the steps we carried out.  At some point, these mental patterns become so common they form a part of our neural pathways and are committed to long-term memory.  The more we use them, the more they solidify.  Think of learning to drive as an example.  When you first learned, you had to concentrate very hard.  As you slept at night, you rehearsed the patterns again.  Now, you probably don’t even think about the very minute corrections you make during driving and sometimes even arrive at your destination without even consciously thinking.  It’s like magic.

Now imagine you are a toddler where everything is new.  It’s like driving every day.  This is probably why children have such a poor long term memory – they simply don’t have the neural pathway foundation to build on.  When it’s all new and novel and there’s nothing for it to stick to, no previous experiences, it just floats through.

However, by taking mementos such as images and photographs or even a souvenir you can recall that experience back to your toddler into the future.  Over time, the images will probably replace their initial vague memory since it will take hold and produce a neural pathway of itself.  But that just means they’ll be more likely to remember the next similar experience.  If this concerns you, then do note that only very rare experiences from our childhood last until adulthood and even these, researchers have learned, are wrote and re-wrote many, many times as we age.  Scientists have also speculated that parental descriptions of events as we age also tend to skew our early childhood experiences.

This notwithstanding, I take images for unique events such as a trip to the zoo, the park, visiting family or friends, and so forth.  My son become accustomed to this and would ask to see the images and do the signs well into the week.  After a few days, he would move on to the next thing so as to keep things fresh.  Images are a great way to recall the signs for family and video can be great for special events.  My son was big on seeing video for animals, trucks (especially big ones) and his grandparents.  So next time you’re doing something your son or daughter is enthralled with, take the time to snap a photo or shoot a clip for them to review later.  They’ll have a blast!

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Motivating Signs Scrapbooks ~ Courtney

A motivating sign is one which your baby wants to learn and perform.  Signs are motivating when they represent a favourite toy or activity, a tasty snack, or a special person in your baby’s life.

Our little fella loves food.  He’s always been a good eater and he will eat almost anything, from jerk chicken to Brussels sprouts.  He not only has a sweet tooth (which we only occasionally indulge), but a spicy tooth and a sour tooth as well!  He’ll even eat garlic powder all on its own!

While mealtime obviously provides opportunity to practice signs for different foods, creating a scrapbook with photographs allows us to practice any time throughout the day.  Our son really enjoys books and he will ask us to read with him all the time.  Having a personalized scrapbook gives him the chance to see things he likes out of context and provides him with extra practice performing the signs for them and see us perform them too.

I have also created a scrapbook of family members that has allowed us to practice saying their names and doing signs.  He doesn’t get to see some of them very often, so it has been a way to keep in touch too.  When we have visited, many of his relatives have been amazed that he remembers who they are and what their names are!

Our son is highly motivated by vehicles; so of course, I made him a scrapbook of our family car and van, his uncle’s pick-up, and various large construction and emergency vehicles too.  He loves it and is eager to do the signs for each!

Homemade scrapbooks can give you a chance to show your baby that you are listening to what he is interested in.  They will allow you to not only share more signing time with your baby, but more talking time as well.  They will undoubtedly become some of your baby’s favourite books that he will return to again and again.

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